Parenting Pagan Children through the Silly Season Or Cultural clash and other family
calamities. Most Pagan parents approach the Christmas season with trepidation knowing that because it is a cultural festival firmly entrenched into our society that the inevitable question will be asked of our child by the inquisitive stranger ."What will Santa be bringing you this year?" Now what is worse for us as parents .. ? Our child's polite response "Santa who?", not so polite response "Did you know Christmas was originally a pagan holiday but the Christians stole it" or the phrase "we don't do Christmas" or "We don't believe in Santa" which brings on the disapproving stare like we are depriving our children by not celebrating Christmas. But rest assure there is a way to manage this holiday season it differs depending on where you live as if you reside in the Northern Hemisphere you can just celebrate Yule with all the overlapping traditions and skip the baby in a manger bit with it being so closely connected to Jesus. This method works best if children understand and can compartmentalise the different facets of Christmas and what each aspect of tradition truly means. For those of us in the South though where Christmas occurs in the heat of summer and somehow store windows decorated with fake snow just look ridiculous and Santa wears a hot red suit that makes him sweat so his beard has a horrible odour related to broiling flesh Christmas gets a little tricky. So here are a few pointers that I have found worked for me: 1. Accept that Christmas occurs, set boundaries within your own home to make it bearable that are fair on everyone. I ban carols until at least 20th Decemnber but by then they are in people's heads and hard to suppress. You can always use sites that substitute Pagan lyrics or have a wealth of Pagan Carols to replace those we are bombarded with in the wider community. Perhaps a spattering of Pagan Carols at home can undermine the wider social influence. I just remind my children that songs like "Deck the Halls" and the "Holly and the Ivy" are pagan anyway.
SO have an enjoyable Holiday Season whatever the weather and your locale. Be safe and be blessed. Above all else enjoy this time with you children and spend time with the ones you love. The season is about community and family and celebrating its resilience through the good times and the bad. Do something nice for someone and eat, drink and be merry. What more could anyone ask from as festival?!
Feast of the Fae Folk Fairies and Pixies,
elves and gnomes.
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A Yule Song Deck the Halls (trad)
Non Alcoholic Mulled Wine for Yule Heat 2litres of Grape Juice over low heat and add 2 cinnamon sticks, a teaspoon of cloves, ground cardoman and allspice and a little raw sugar to taste. Serve in stone mugs of punch glasses being careful not to over heat it and burn guests. For adult parties substitue grape
juice with redwine.
Midsummer Incense * 2 Parts Sandalwood
Foods for the Summer Solstice are typically fresh vegetables and fresh fruits (esp. lemons and oranges), harvested herbs and edible flowers like Nastursiums, Summer squash, Asparagus and any yellow or orange colored foods. Honey, pumpernickel bread, barbecue fare, herbal teas, fruit juices, punches, sweet wines, ales & meads.
Some ideas for Midsummer Watch Shakespeare's Play Embrace stories about fairies Make a big juicy fruit salad-Try peaches, mangoes, nectarines and grapes topped with passionfruit. Have a picnic, go to the beach
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