KEEPING OUR CHILDREN
I do not think there is quite anything
so frightening as the prospect, as a parent, that harm may come to our
children in any way shape or form. It is clear that though we may go to
the greatest lengths to keep our children safe there are predators in
the community and the Pagan Community is no different from any other
community. Children are at their most vulnerable when alone whether that
pertains to physical isolation or emotional loneliness.
This month Leshanki would like to share some tips with parents on how to
keep our children safe from predators. It is important that we know the
people with whom our children spend their time. In most cases abuse of a
child is at the hands of someone that the child is familiar with such as
A relative, family friend, an adult of the child's friend, or a person
of authority in the child's life such as a caregiver, babysitter or
We advise to take the time to teach our children what is appropriate
behaviour and what is considered inappropriate behaviour.
Help build your child's confidence by acting out, in safety, and
discussing what a child should say and do when faced with inappropriate
Always be open and ready to listen to your child should they feel the
need to speak with you.
Keep an eye out for changes in your child's behaviour.
Always be interested in your child's extra curricular activities and
never be afraid to speak up if someones behaviour toward your child is
unacceptable. This sets a wonderful example for your child and helps
subside fear or shame should your child need to approach you on a
Always keep the home as a safe haven for your children and the entire
Teach children that no secrets should be kept from yourself unless it is
a birthday surprise or something along those lines, and if someone wants
them to keep a secret it is usually a warning that they should always
speak with you.
If a child is confused by or feels uneasy about another persons
behaviour always encourage your children that you are their for them ,
to listen and nut out any confusing issues they may have.
Never leave your children alone or unattended at public events.
Always try to be open and honest and to the point when discussing sexual
issues with your children.
Encourage questions and always practise interest no matter how bizarre
the questions may be. (and they come up with some doozies)
Always meet your teenagers friends, try and meet their friends families
and find out as much as you can about them.
Never ever be afraid to say no to your teenager.
Read the books and listen to the music your teenagers find interesting.
Meet all adults who spend time with your teenager. This includes all
spiritual teachers. Let the other adults in your teenagers life know
that you are the parent, you are the one in control. Also let them know
what is appropriate and what is inappropriate in regards to your
Never be afraid to voice your opinion in regards to your child.
A predator is more likely to go looking elsewhere if they can see that
your child is protected by your own watchful eye.
Never be afraid to report any cases of abuse or any suspicious
behaviour. Such things are handled with discretion and compassion. If
you feel your complaint is not taken seriously go further up the ladder
until someone does.
Speak to your local police.
Your family doctor.
Your local hospital.
Most importantly never panic. Our children should live safe and happy
lives with the best love and care we can give.
For more information on keeping your child safe please refer to the